Sir-Text-A-Lot
Sir Text-A-Lot
It starts with the
infamous "Good Morning" text with a smiley face. Followed by
countless back and forth messages "How's your day going?" "What's
for lunch?" blah blah blah. By the evening it's "WYD", "How
was work?" All of this followed by my favorite, "Good night
beautiful!" signed, sealed, and delivered with the kissing emoji. This is
communication while dating in 2017!
I get it, texting is a
convenient mode of communication- it's quick, can be done
in almost any setting, and keeps you FEELING connected. But are you
really connecting? What happened to the daily phone calls?!
Oh yeah...you're too busy-
you have deadlines at work, grad school, a long commute, training for the half marathon, chapter meeting, and happy hour. So you substitute the phone
conversations with countless text throughout the day--keeping in touch. This is
classic Sir Text-A-Lot.
Please note, this does not
discredit the amazing times you have in person. Weekends are filled with fun
outings, binge watching your favorite show, side note: every couple needs
“their show.” You know the show that you only watch together and you’re not
allowed to go ahead of the episode you last saw with you boo.
So what's wrong with Sir
Text-A-Lot, absolutely nothing and definitely everything.
For some ladies, Sir
Text-A-Lot provides the desire of constant communication. They feel like
they are getting a play by play of bae's day. They know that their train was
delayed at 14th St., they get a picture of their burrito bowl from lunch, a screen shot of a funny meme from IG, a
summary of their work day, and a preview of what "day" it is at the
gym-#legday. After Sir Text-A-Lot gets home, he eats dinner,
jumps in the shower, and gets in some entertainment- Sports Center, Narcos, The Walking Dead. He then texts her "Good night
beautiful" with a kissing face, checks his social media pages one more
time and then he's off to bed. He hasn't heard her voice all day.
He feels confident that
he's connected with her because he can give a summary of her day. He checks in-
he knows she is struggling with day three of her JJ Smith Green Smoothie
Cleanse. He gets a dressing room
pic from when she went to Zara on her lunch break looking for a dress for the wedding she's
attending next weekend--of course she gets a heart eyes smiley face in return.
He knows that her annoying co-worker asked her to buy a phone case for her
using her Amazon Prime account to get free shipping. Sir Text-A-Lots do
well with ladies who love constant contact. #constantcontact
Jonesin’
Then there are ladies who
enjoy jonesin', these ladies look forward to PHONE CALLS. She
appreciates a wake up call, a quick convo on your lunch break, and
loves pillow talk at night. Now don’t get me wrong, these ladies are
fine with a text here or there, however, she’s not into long text messages as a
substitute for actually talking. She checks in from time to time, but
saves the narrative for your next phone call. For her, she would find
a Sir Text-A- Lot frustrating; he would not provide the intimacy that
she seeks--emotional intimacy that is!
So
what’s a girl to do?!
-Call him. If you want to
talk...TALK! Initiate conversations, yes that would mean picking up the phone
and calling him. People don't talk on the phone anymore; he may not be
calling because you're not calling. He likely doesn't know it’s something
you desire--no one reads minds.
-Make
it good. When you
do talk, engage in good conversation; more than just a play by play of your
day. Stimulate his mind. Maybe even FaceTime your boo!
-Know your man-Recognize where he’s coming from. Life is busy, especially
if he's an ambitious, young professional. These men are always on the move and
talking on the phone for an hour is a challenge. He works through lunch,
has jammed packed evenings, and goes home to do more grinding. What these
men do not mind, is face to face connections. Meet him at the happy hour. Go running
with him, don’t worry, edge control will get you back laid and slayed for work
in the morning.
Dating can be the
STRUGGLE. However, the bliss of finding someone you vibe with makes it worth
it. If you’re vibin’, don’t throw away Sir-Text-A-Lot, figure out a way to
create the connection you want and need.
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